Loss

[illusions]

For those who don't already know, my sister's partner, Martin Bromage was killed in a microlight accident on Monday. It's a huge shock, and has been a struggle to come to terms with and accept, as you can imagine. I wasn't going to mention it here, but I know how many friends I have here, and some of you also know Sharelle, and it does make a difference to know that friends are thinking of us - especially Sharelle - and sending Love and Support.

Here is the news story - Martin was an Amazing person, and this article gives just a small indication of the kind of person he was...
Microlight pilot Martin Bromage killed on day one of charity flight | Metro.co.uk

Love and Light and Magic xxx

[Aaron]

@Odille

My condolences - very sad to hear that Odille!
Lots of Love to you and your family!

[Pamela Vicik-Smith]

Oh, Odille. I am so very, very sorry...I had no idea.

Though it is little consolation, it appears that Martin died doing what he loved to do and also doing it for a very good cause.

I am sending nothing but strong, positive vibrations to you, your sister, and your families.

I am so sorry my friend.

[Pamela]

Dearest Odille,

This news is heartbreaking, my dear friend, and I am so sorry. I have often looked to the photos that Sharelle has posted at Facebook and it was clear that Martin was a strong, vibrant and gentle soul who lovingly embraced life to its fullest. The love and light that radiated from his photos touch me deeply. I can only begin to imagine the pain your entire family must be feeling... Please know that my thoughts of love, comfort and healing are with you, Sharelle, and all of your loved ones.

With Much, Much Love,

Pamela

[wpage]

So sad

Prayers for your loss...
His flight to a higher plane

[Kevin]

Prayers up for you, Sharelle, and Martins family.

Please give Sharelle a big from Mary and myself.

[illusions]

Thank you all so much.

I've learned some really important things from Martin. Something my sister said: They say, when someone close to you dies, you realise what really matters... and she pointed out that Martin was the perfect example of that - he only focused on what really matters; and there were things that, at the time you think are so important, that he wasn't bothered with... and now you realise they didn't matter, and what he was focused on was what did matter.

He's a great example of living in the moment, following what feels good, living for fun, compassion, caring, twinkly smile, and there's no such thing as "too much hassel", "too busy" or "not enough time" if there's fun involved. Just two weeks before his departure, he was soooo busy planning his trip, had so much to do in so little time... and yet, when we had all that snow here in Gloucester, he dropped everything to take his son and my son to slide down hills and play in the snow - two days in a row.

Even when he was tired and it was cold and late and he had work stuff to sort out, he would still get everything together and take the boys kayaking.

Anything he found interesting (and he found soooo many things interesting), he would learn. Kayaking, rock climbing, paragliding, microlight and helicopter piloting, sailing, tree surgery, French, head-stands (he learned to do head-stands especially for my sister because it made her laugh), magic - anything he felt might be fun to do, he'd decide to learn it, and would pick it up incredibly quickly..... he didn't used to cook or bake, but decided he was going to make a Valentines dinner from scratch for my sister. He went online to find the recipes - including Creme Brulee (for which he bought matching heart-shaped dishes) - and made a fabulous dinner!! He also baked a delicious Valentines cake from scratch - again from a recipe online, having never baked before. He then baked a chocolate cake for my son's birthday as well.

He fell out of the sky about 10 years ago - while paragliding. Landed on his foot on a rock, broke his angle along with his back, and miraculously survived. Many painful months in hospital, and a fused ankle later, he was not put off enjoying experiences for the fun of them, and went on with another 10 years of adventure and fun.

When my sister was going to get a commercial flight over to Largos in Portugal, to continue her microlight flying lessons, Martin said "I'll give you a lift and you can practice on the way!" They flew, in Martin's microlight, from Gloucester to Portugal, through the Pyrenees Mountains. When they got the other side, they discovered they were the first people to do that trip, in a flex-wing, unsupported!

There's so much more. What a shiny example of following what feels good, following fun, and focusing on what really matters.

And if he was going to go now, he went in style! Doing what he loved, for a cause he believed in, with incredible support, love and admiration, from not only his family and friends, but from the press and public world-wide. "In a Blaze of Glory"

And we are so very proud of him, honoured and grateful to have had him in our lives.

[serenac]

Hi Odille! Sorry I couldn't post here earlier, last Friday the computer just all of a sudden and without warning decided to just up and die! And I've been computerless and internet-less since then! (That's almost as bad as being car-less I think (and I've been car-less for a coupla years now!).) Someone came by and installed a new computer tonite, still doesn't work too well, doesn't have any drivers so 'bout all I can do right now is internet and that's pretty much it.

I wanted to say I'm so so very sorry Odille! I couldn't believe it! I just couldn't believe that something so horrible could happen to such a wonderful person, at any time and even much less when he was doing something so great and amazing.

Anyways also wanted to say that you know of course already that you can write to me ANYTIME you like and talk (well write) about ANYTHING that you feel like, if you just feel like writing something or telling me all about Martin, anything. You can even Skype me if you want!

What will happen to your sister and her family now? I really hope they are well and things aren't too hard for them right now. I know they've got the best support with you and your family!

I was also going to write other things but can't remember them now, because the computer expired before I could get onto the forum and write anything in it.

Nothing is more important than the people that we love and being with them. And also when you told me what happened to Martin I was thinking that at times like that people don't care about their dreams or anything else, but then later when people start to get over it maybe nothing else is important anymore, but DREAMS are still there, dreams don't die, dreams are still important. Oh I can't remember what else I was thinking then, it was so many days ago and if I can't sit down and write something down when I think it later I forget it. So I don't know what else I wanted to tell you.

Oh I forgot don't have Skype installed in the new computer either. Well one day it'll get installed, and then you can Skype me if you want!

So take lots of care of you Odille. Sending you lots and lots of love and huggies!

[illusions]

Thanks v much Serena xxx

[ren]

My condolences. I witnessed the death of my father in a motorcycle accident nearly 6 years ago. I know the pain and heartache it brings to a family.

I still have my off days, but more and more I am learning to reflect upon the treasured memories, the ones that bring joy. No one ever truely dies, especially when they are remembered by those who loved them. I know it sounds corny, but Ive found it to be true somewhat. My father lives on in me, if I cherish what he gave me, he is never truely gone.

I wish you and your family strength and comfort through the next few months, from my experiece that was the most difficult part. But do not fear the change that comes over these next few years. It is difficult to grasp and cope with at first, life can seem like an endless downward spiral at times. But I would not be who I am today if I had not endured that hardship.

What I guess I am trying to say is that no one can see what lays down the path for you and your immediate family. Perhaps some good will come from tradegy, as impossible as that seems right now.

Best regards.

[serenac]

Turn the page

Dear Odille! How are you doing how are you getting on these days?

Lately I've been very, oh I don't know, like overwhelmed by terrible things that have been happening all around me to other people that I know or care about. They make me very sad with their sadness (no I'm not talking about you, seems as if there were some sort of epidemic of bad things happening to everyone all at once! ).

I have to make the effort to remember that all these people have CREATED all these bad things happening in their world. Some of these things I can understand and see very clearly that yes indeed, that person did indeed create those ugly events in their lives, even if they might be unaware of their unlimited creative power or believe that they themselves create anything at all.

But I had a much harder time trying to see how anyone could create some of the things that happen to them, how for example a person could create drug addiction or getting trapped by a sect, or why a person would want to create losing a person that they love.

But I realize that the reason we can't understand how or why a person would create these things, is because we don't TURN THE PAGE! We remain stuck in playing over and over again the terrible thing that happened like in a loophole, we don't turn the page to see that that person's story continues on, we don't see what happens next, or what opportunity that horrible event is actually giving us for something great and awesome to happen next, if only we would TURN THE PAGE.

For example we only see that a loved one gets consumed by drugs, trapped by them and then dies from an overdose. We see that as the end, and it isn't! We don't know what happens to that loved one afterwards, where he goes, we won't know about it until we die ourselves. And then maybe we might discover that in living and dying as a drug addict perhaps that person became enlightened, from what they learned in living such a life.

*Bad* events always hide great enormous treasures inside them and are the greatest gift. Okay so I admit I wish a person I love very much (who left a few years ago) would've stayed in the world with me. But I won't deny that my life today is ABOSLUTELY AWESOME thanks to the fact that this person decided to leave the world. Everything wonderful that has happened to me since then is due to the fact that this person is no longer in this world and is in the other world. Being able to dump my abusive ex, moving to Malaga, discovering Paths, Busting Loose, Matrix Energetics and Divine Openings, learning to create what I want instead of being kicked around by fickle fate, and a whole lot of other wonderful, amazing things, all of this is possible because this beloved person decided not to hang around in the world anymore.

Okay well that's it, won't take up any more of your time. Just remember to turn the page, look for the gift the enormous hidden treasure. I imagine Martin peering down from the other world laughing and smirking in anticipation just waiting with delight to see when you all will discover the great gift he hid for you by leaving. Although I'm sure you're handling it all tremendously well, because you're wide awake and you do understand and know all this already! Big big big big !!!!! Serena

[illusions]

Hi Serena

I'm doing fine - I miss Martin, but I also know that life is transient (and of course, an illusion), and it's a case of getting used to the change. My main focus has been supporting my sister, and she's doing better now too. It's a huge adjustment for her, but she's dealing with the loss in a very healthy way.

Sorry I haven't replied to your email yet - because of what's been happening lately, I have fallen way behind with a lot of things, including preparation for the corporate gig in America, which I leave for tomorrow morning.

As always, your insight is excellent.

A good way to look at the situations you've mentioned is:
Many people love to go to horror movies. This has always puzzled me (picture of me being puzzled in case you were wondering lol ).... I've always wondered why on earth people would deliberately cause themselves fear and terror and stress by watching these films... and it's still curious to me... but they are clearly choosing to voluntarily expose themselves to that experience... see where I'm going with this? Now, of course a person might say, but they are consciously CHOOSING to see the movie.... which is true - but their body doesn't know that . The body goes into survival mode just as if the threat is real. Palms get sweaty, addrenaline is released, heart-rate increases....

You could look at the physical experience ("life") as a movie theatre. Before entering this movie theatre complex, some choose drama, some choose romantic comedy, some choose horror, some choose thriller, some choose "rags to riches", some tradgedy... and so on. And of course some genres are a mixture. Now, one could try and haul those people out of the horror movie theatre, to "save" them from the experience - and if one did, their bodies would be grateful Their bodies would experience relief and return to "normal"... but the person themselves would probably not be impressed. They would probably resist.

Love and Light and Magic xxx

[illusions]

Thank you so much Ren - much appreciated . I'm really sorry to hear about your father, and that you went through that experience, but glad that your perspective is enlightened.

Love and Light and Magic xxx

[serenac]

Oooooohhhh that sounds like LOOOOOOOOOOADS of fun Odille! Have oodles and oodles of fun on your trip! (Says it's a peace smiley but it's screaming VVVVVVVVVV!!!)