OK, my son just turned twelve today...
wow...
and he also has been out of school again, cuz of being sick...
and tonight he was telling me how he worries about his dad....( he hasn't seen or heard from his dad for nearly two years.... ) and how when he is worrying he is making himself sick.... he has had nasty diareah for three days and the rest of the time he is constipated...
I know this intestinal stuff from when i would go through it years ago.
he has been worrying about his dad for some time now, and really misses him....
Honestly it breaks my heart to see him go throught this, and i try and talk to/with him and help him, but am unsure of i actually am of any help and plus he pushes me away too........
two years ago, he was with his dad for x-mas.. and they went out of town with his dads girl friend.... And his dad and the girl friend broke up, she kicked them out (the dad and my son)... and on there way back I guess Tristan say's that his dad expressed his fears of being on the street and having no home and stuff...
and tristan worries that his dad is gonna die, and be homeless and on the street...
which i know isn't true (cuz i have started to get child support) and I think it was an adult fear put onto a child who couldn't possibly comprehend the fact that his dad was probably afraid in the moment, when he shared that (he's been a resourceful guy)
I haven't been with his dad since tristan was 2months old... and have been a single mom ever since....
Tristan has been sick three times in the last 7weeks...
and it's always different stuff, but i beleive he has been making himself sick,(as i believe we all do) and it seems to be that he is also reconizing this too....
Just needed to share this.... cuz my heart is broken, i feel his pain....
So some help/corrections/healing enery, LOVE to my son and his worries and belief that it his fault...
Thanks LOVE

Adrienne